My last post of 2014 is a couple of days late. That’s what a
long holiday, too much TV football, and grown children returning to the hive
will do for you. The computer keyboard gets shoved aside for a game of some
sort, the kitchen countertops stay covered with artery-clogging snacks, and
chaos reigns for days on end. Or so it seems.
But we love it all, and view these few wacky days as another
example that sometimes, maybe all the time - family matters. Read those two
words as an adjective-noun, or as a noun-verb, either way, family matters seem
to dominate the end of the year around our house.
In the real world of right now, our older son’s beautiful
young wife is expecting the birth of their first child in five weeks or so. The
little guy will be our first grandchild, so we’re really happy. Meanwhile, two
days ago, our younger son proposed marriage to a beautiful young lady with whom
he has been smitten.
The big question came just after they climbed the narrow
iron spiral staircase to the balcony in the historic 115 year old Lockhart
Public Library Building. The clever lad carved a hole in the pages of a
hardback copy of Wuthering Heights and hid the ring inside. Then he recruited an
accomplice to stash the book on a shelf full of dusty old leather-bound novels.
Happily, the sparkly ring survived an unguarded hour or two hidden in the pages
of the gloomy Victorian epic of romance and revenge. The beautiful young lady
said “Yes,” so there’s an April wedding ahead in 2015, paving the way for more
grandkids.
By the way, “Wuthering Heights” is more than the name of
Emily Bronte’s lengthy novel. It is also the name of the English country home
in which much of the action in that novel takes place. Wuthering means blowing
strongly, so here in Texas we’d call a wuthering height a real windy hill. A
house up there in the 1860’s would probably look like the spooky house in
Alfred Hitchcock’s Psycho movie, only dustier. And maybe without an old dead
lady in a rocking chair.
In my American Victorian era Civil War tale, Tangled
Honor, a good bit of the action occurs in the McBee family home in Lexington,
Virginia, which can’t help but bring family matters into the story. The McBee
house in my book doesn’t have a name since it’s in town, and is a widow’s home.
I could have called it Widow’s Heights, I suppose, but I didn’t put it on a
hill. There is an old lady in the McBee house, the Widow McBee, of course. And
she has a rocking chair, but her heart was still beating last time I checked in
on her.
Anyway, the Captain McBee Civil War novels have become as
much a family story as a war story, which might be off-putting to some readers
who enjoyed the purely military plot of my first book, Whittled Away. Granted that family stories can get
convoluted really fast, and those story threads in a novel can grow and take
over more of the plot than the writer, at least this writer, first intended. On
the other hand, family relationships have a way of blowing up or changing rather
quickly and unexpectedly, and that’s not so very different from war.
Since we are at the end of 2014, I’m remembering that this
past year has been the 150th anniversary of the last full year of the
Civil War. The year 1864 was an ugly year for America, a really ugly year for
the South. The military campaigns of 1864 were exceptionally brutal as Grant
and Sherman relentlessly attacked, and the Confederacy reached the point of
desperation, yet dug their heels in, refusing to yield.
The states of Virginia, Georgia, and Tennessee in particular
endured terrible months of the war impacting the civilian populations as large
armies foraged for food, stealing whatever they could find to feed the soldiers,
then destroying the farms. Small towns and large cities were targeted by
artillery. I bet almost all of us remember the stunning panoramic film shots of
Atlanta burning created for the film Gone
With the Wind.
I’ve not written about 1864 in the McBee saga yet, but in
June of ‘64 the little town of Lexington, Virginia was shelled and many of the
buildings were burned down by Union soldiers with orders to destroy the
Shenandoah Valley, the breadbasket of the Confederacy. Any lingering attitude of chivalry, of keeping
the war between soldiers-only, was long gone.
So, as my closing wish for the year, I’m promoting “Remember
and Learn.” Remember because the 600,000 military deaths and untold thousands
of American civilian deaths were important. They were too important to let
drift away, forgotten in the fog of passing decades. Shame on us if we let the
significance of those deaths leave our national memory.
Learn because we
certainly don’t want to again go down the nightmare road of internal war again.
Us waging war against us, never again. You bet we have huge issues dividing our
country today, some of the issues not so different from the divisive issues of
150 years ago.
But now we know what happened right here in our heartland when
politicians let stubbornness overcome compromise and reasonable debate. Now we
know that even endless, repetitive, seemingly futile debate is infinitely
preferable to picking sides and shooting at each other. Let’s don’t ever go
there again.
Family matters. Noun-verb. Family matters, and we are a
national family. (Pretty corny, I know. But I believe it.)
We need for 2015 to be a long happy year, not just a happy
new year.